I'd say with the exception of the bow (in my opinion), these are all good AND necessary steps to follow. We all know that Alanthya is a pretty brutal place, but like Cecil said, WITH DEDICATION, anyone has the ability to rise to the top. To anyone who thinks that our server is too hard, you haven't explored or been active enough. There are plenty of places and resources to find where any noob can get what they need to be succesful. Take your time. Don't think that you can master this server overnight, or even in a month. They've designed this server to be a place of infinite possibilities. And I agree with the steps you mentioned about not worrying about dying and not getting attached to items the MOST. It is absolutely inevitable, unless you are Notch, that you WILL die, and you WILL lose your items.... more than just a few times.
One thing I'd like to add to this though.. At the end of the day, always remember that this is a game and we are all here to have fun. Don't hold grudges forever and don't take getting killed, griefed or raided personally... You will only upset yourself. Happy hunting!